We are continuing you Thanksgiving game plan strategies! Today’s episode, we are talking your Thanksgiving game plan!
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Your Thanksgiving Game Plan
What’s your game plan when your mom asks you why you aren’t eating as much as you usually do?
Or your mother in law who always brings up your weight?
Maybe you have a sibling who you considered the Golden Child…they can do no wrong….and you feel you will never live up to your parents standards no matter how many achievements you acquire?…
Or maybe your super lean cousin who seems to inhale food and never gain an ounce?
What’s your game plan for handling the moments where you feel so uncomfortable and are second guessing whether this “weight loss” thing is ever gonna happen for you!
The reason you want to have a game plan is because I’d say 90% of time when you get triggered you are going overeat.
Because everyone has different layers as to why and how this affects them…I am going to suggest some generic solutions. If you want more specifics for you, jump on a consult call with me.
Take the focus off the other people who are involved..
You cannot change them.
They will continue to do what they always do.
Your job is to focus on you.
When you feel like you are starting to get triggered….take a deep breath and count to 10.
You get to decide what you would like to do in this moment.
How do you want to act?
Here are some typical responses…
- REact ..blow up, have an argument, defend yourself
- Do nothing (disengage), feel small, feel less than or not good enough, retreat
What I would like to suggest to you is to do the opposite of what you would normally do.
Now if normally you would retreat I am not saying have a throw down in the middle of Thanksgiving…but think about what you would like to say in that situation.
Here are some suggestions:
By the way…tone is everything.
“I am sorry you feel that way.“
“I can see how you might think that.“
This one is always fun to see the reaction other person…“You are right…I do need to [fill in the blank]”
Keep in mind the people who are presenting these situations to you are operating on what they believe is the way to live life.
And that’s okay but it doesn’t mean you have to live your life that way.
Now I want to warn you…reacting in a different way than you typically do might make the other person REALLY uncomfortable…don’t let that stop you….this is one of the skills you will learn working with me. Where you can still stand up for yourself and still have the other person not feeling attacked.
This is also something that will not change over one Thanksgiving day…this is why I work with my clients for a year so you get to practice making this easier each holiday gathering.
So, think about one situation you think will come up this Thanksgiving.
How do you want to handle it in a way which keeps you on track for your weight loss goals?
If you need help, you know where to find me.
Have a beautiful day and stay tuned for tomorrow’s episode!