Today on the Shape It Up Over 40 podcast, I have a special guest and we are talking about:

Marriage in the Middle  

We are going to dive into:

• Your mindset is critical to improving your experience in the marriage,
• communication starts before you ever say a word to each other,
• the relationship you have with your own emotions drives how you respond to everything

My special guest today is Dr. Chavonne Perotte, a life and marriage coach who helps couples develop the mindset and skills to create happy marriages. She received her doctorate from the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health and focused her research on communication and intimate partnerships. She is the author of “Voices in Your Ear: New Conversations to Transform Your Mind and Renew Your Marriage” and is the Founder of RelateAble, LLC. a coaching practice that provides virtual coaching to couples seeking a combination of Christian-faith guidance and transformational coaching tools. Learn more here https://drchavonne.com/fresh-start-2022/

Welcome to the Shape It Up Over 40 podcast!

I am your host, Nicole Simonin and I help women over 40 ditch diets and lose weight for the last time.

You think you’ll just go on a diet and lose all the weight and then figure it out from there…how’s that been working out for you?? I can help you end the diet cycle. Teach you how to lose weight AND you’ll learn EXACTLY how to maintain that new body of yours. I am here waiting for you to say YES to you! You get to make the next move. Book your discovery call now and start getting the results you actually want. https://shapeitupfitness.com/call/

I Am Not Consistent

So here is today’s weight loss problem……“I am just not consistent”

I hear this A LOT from women who come to me on Discovery Calls.

You think that if you were just more consistent that you would be more fit, healthy and leaner…I want to offer that not being consistent isn’t the issue…

There is an easier way…listen into today’s You’ve got 99 problems but weight loss doesn’t have to be one!

Are you ready to solve one of your particular problems that has you stuck?? Book your complimentary Solution Coaching Call today and solve one piece of your weight loss struggle. Go  https://shapeitupfitness.com/solution  to schedule.

I Just Can’t Lose The Weight No Matter What I Try!

Over the next couple weeks, I will be doing a special segment – You’ve got 99 problems but weight loss doesn’t have to be one – on all the issues you are having with losing weight along with my recommendations on how to fix AND

If you want to take it one step further I am offering complimentary Solution Coaching Calls. This is a 20 min call where I will coach you on one weight loss problem that you are having and help you solve it.

This call does not have a sales pitch at the end. If you want to work with me you can schedule a Discovery Call at ShapeItUpFitness.com/call and learn about how to get started.

I wanted to create a way where I can help as many women as possible and I think this is going to make a huge impact in your lives.

If you want to schedule your Solution Coaching Call, I HIGHLY recommend you schedule it immediately. This special segment is going to be on all my social media platforms and the spots will go quickly. You can schedule at ShapeItUpFitness.com/solution

So here is today’s weight loss problem…“I just can’t lose the weight no matter what I try!”

Over the next couple weeks, I will be doing a special segment – You’ve got 99 problems but weight loss doesn’t have to be one – on all the issues you are having with losing weight along with my recommendations on how to fix AND…

If you want to take it one step further I am offering complimentary Solution Coaching Calls. This is a 20 min call where I will coach you on one weight loss problem that you are having and help you solve it.

This call does not have a sales pitch at the end. If you want to work with me you can schedule a Discovery Call at ShapeItUpFitness.com/call and learn about how to get started.

I wanted to create a way where I can help as many women as possible and I think this is going to make a huge impact in your lives.

If you want to schedule your Solution Coaching Call, I HIGHLY recommend you schedule it immediately. This special segment is going to be on all my social media platforms and the spots will go quickly. You can schedule at ShapeItUpFitness.com/solution

So here is today’s weight loss problem… I just can’t resist sugar!

“I Just Can’t Resist Sugar!”

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Be. Do. Become.

Today on the Shape It up Over 40 podcast, I am going to talk about who you want to be when you are at your ideal weight or in your ideal physique. Who you need to BE. What you need to DO…to Become.

Before we dive into that I want to say Thank you to all of you who are listening to this podcast and sharing it to your friends. This podcast has been ranking in the top 10 in Croatia, Hong Kong and Thailand and continues to be hitting the charts in the USA , Australia and Canada. So than you for helping me share this with women all over the world…letting them know that you do not need a diet to lose weight and you don’t need to hate yourself skinny.

Be. Do. Become.

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Today on the Shape It up Over 40 podcast, I am going to talk about who you want to be when you are at your ideal weight or in your ideal physique.

Before we dive into that I want to say Thank you to all of you who are listening to this podcast and sharing it to your friends. This podcast has been ranking in the top 10 in Croatia, Hong Kong and Thailand and continues to be hitting the charts in the USA , Australia and Canada. So than you for helping me share this with women all over the world…letting them know that you do not need a diet to lose weight and you don’t need to hate yourself skinny.

Be. Do. Become. for weight loss

Alright so let’s talk about Be. Do. Become. There is another version of this that is Be. Do. Have. But as far as weight loss I really like the idea of “become”.

I am always aiming to level myself up to become a new improved version of me. For me it’s like getting updates on a regular basis. I have been working on stepping into this new version of me for some time now and I want you to know that this whole leveling up thing is a process. It’s a similar process that I do with my clients.

Because if you are not happy with the body you have right now…you are looking to level up …to get an update…to become a better version of you.

This doesn’t mean the current version of you is wrong or bad or anything like that, It’s just you want more….and I truly believe that is what we are meant to do with our time on planet earth…make an impact in peoples lives and keep impacting your own life.

So, when you are starting to become aware that you aren’t happy with the body you have ..you start envisioning what you do want …what kind of body you want to live in. What kind of clothes you would like to be wearing. Maybe some activities you would like to be trying…like surfing…or hiking…or even just traveling and being able to walk and keep up with the people you are traveling with.

This envisioning of newer you is where you get to dream about what you look like as that learner version of you….but you need to take it a step further…you need to know what that new version of you feels like and what does she think…then what does she do. You need to BE her.

Once you have really honed in of what it is like to BE her then you go into the DO. What does this upleveled version of you do. Now the DO part, most people automatically go to the workout and some diet….If you have to “force” yourself or “make” yourself do something that you can’t do long term you will never get that new version of you…I am referring to dieter’s mentality. Sacrifice and will power are not sustainable which is why I teach my clients a totally different approach to how to eat and how to move your body.

If you are kinda lost or confused at this point hang with me I have a perfect analogy coming up that will make this much clearer…

So, once you figure out the DO part…then after implementing, practicing, failing, tweaking and reimplementing you will become the new version of you.

Most women that come to me are approaching it backwards…they desperately want the weight loss and are hyper focused on why they don’t have it yet (the BECOME part) and then they tell me all the DO’s they are attempting and they aren’t even aware of the BE part of the equation.

Analogy Of Be. Do. Become.

So here is my analogy to tie this all together for you…

As you all know I grew up in the ballet studio. And every year, the dance studio did The Nutcracker. In our version of The Nutcracker, the lead role was Clara. When I was 11 years old, I wanted to dance the lead role of Clara. And when I say “wanted” it was like there was no other option for me. I was going to dance that role. In my mind, I was so determined \ I would dance that part. I don’t think I told anybody else that I was desiring that role which was probably a good thing because I do not remember anyone deterring me from it…Kinda like when you declare that you are going to lose weight and you tell someone about it and they interject their opinion…”are you sure you want to do that again. Remember the last time you tried to lose weight” or some version of that.

We also do this to ourselves!!

That little voice that wants to keep us right where we are starts talking to us….I am grateful that at the age of 11, that voice was nowhere to be heard.

• I was relentless with wanting this role.
• Super focused on getting the part.
• I watched the current Clara dance the part.
• Watched VHS tapes (yes that’s how old I am) of the performances.
• Learned the choreography.
• I would push the furniture out of the way in our family room and pretend it was the stage.
• I would use my mom’s stationary bike as my “partner” in the pas de deux part.
• Listen The Nutcracker record over and over.
• I made costumes to practice in.
• I had a Nutcracker doll that I would dance with.
• I would think about how I would play the part of Clara.
• I was BEING Clara.
• I was DOING the actions that would get me closer to my goal of dancing that part.

My dance teacher had no idea this was in my mind. I wasn’t getting outside validation or encouragement to keep going. I was driven from inside of me all because I desired to have something.

Be and Do…then Become.

So, I was in the BE and DO part and it wasn’t until 2 years later that I would BECOME Clara. I would dance that role. Not only did I dance it once, but I was picked for the role 2 years in a row which at that time was rare. I had BECOME Clara…I had BECOME the person I needed to be to dance that role.

This what you need to do to BECOME the leaner, healthier version you want to become. You need to adopt new ways of thinking about you. You need to feel what it is like to be that new version of you…like deep in your soul feeling. You need to KNOW that you WILL become that new version of you. And for no other reason than why the hell not!  Why not be the best version of you that you can be! Why not live in the body that you love!

I work with my clients on what is getting in their way of becoming this new leaner version. We unlearn a lot of doubts and limiting beliefs. We dive into the BE part because what I find is most women that come to me think they know who they want to BE but when we go deeper we find out that they have a different truth for themselves. We take action in the DO part. But you have to BE the person before you can DO. And I take my clients through the process of not just BECOMING the person they want to be but teach them how to sustain that new version and continue to grow into an ever-evolving person.

If you would like help putting this all together and becoming the person you want to be, I want to invite you to book a discovery call with me today.

There is absolutely NO reason why you can’t be living your best life in a body that feels incredible to you.

Go to ShapeItUpFitness.com/call to schedule your call. On your call, tell me what it is about your body that you dislike, share what you have been doing that is not working. I will point out what it is that has you stuck. We will talk about working together and if you are all in on the call we will get started right then. Weight loss does not have to be hard. The way I teach it is so simple and doable. You do not have to keep struggling and feeling frustrated. It’s time to become the version of you that you want to be. Go to ShapeItUpFitness.com/call and let’s get started on the person you want to become.

Today on the Shape It Up Over 40 podcast, I have a special guest and we are talking about:

How To Make The Shifts In A Relationship Without The Other Person Doing Anything

We are going to dive into shifts in a relationship:

• How we create our emotions,
• why we go to certain emotions and behaviors again and again even when it doesn’t feel good
• and how to stop doing this

My special guest today is Naomi Stonier a Relationship Coach, public speaker, wife, mother, who works with you on all your relationships not just the intimate one.

Featured on the episode:

• Find Naomi HERE.

If you are done feeling like a prisoner in your own body, watching life pass you by because of your weight, and are looking to feel freedom around food, way less mind drama, feel more relaxed and calm while losing weight AND know EXACTLY how to keep it off for good!… Let’s set up a call.

Working with me you will learn how to eat the foods you love, move your body in the ways you like and understand why you do what you do (or don’t do). Don’t let your weight hold you back any longer! It can be easy and simple and I’d love to show you how.

I can promise you there is an easier and simpler way. It doesn’t have to be hard or time consuming to lose the weight. If you are ready to learn more schedule your Discovery Call at https://shapeitupfitness.com/call/  

We always seem to be celebrating something…

Janet’s birthday at work…

A baby shower for your niece…

A wedding for your best friend’s son…

The weekend…

Taco Tuesday!

But how many times do you celebrate this important person in your life?

Getting a healthier body doesn’t have to include willpower and white knuckling.

You don’t need pills or potions to be successful.

You CAN eat the foods you love…

You CAN play in your favorite activities.

Lasting weight loss comes from how you think and feel about yourself and then the actions you take to become healthier…

So, if you aren’t celebrating you need to change the way you look and feel at how you lose weight.

If you are curious how to put this all together for you, I want to invite you to schedule your discovery call with me today. On the call, share how your body just isn’t co-operating with your ideas and what is the body you really see yourself living in. One of the great benefits to this call, is you will get my expert eye on what is going on and I will point out some blind spots you are missing that are keeping you stuck.

We will talk about what it would look like to work together and if you are all in… we will get you started right on the call. Regardless of whether we decide to move forward and work together, you will leave your call with insight on what steps you need to take next to move closer to the healthier body you want to live in. Schedule your call today at ShapeItUpFitness.com/call

Celebrate

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We always seem to be celebrating something…

Janet’s birthday at work…

A baby shower for your niece…

A wedding for your best friend’s son…

The weekend…

Taco Tuesday!

But how many times do you celebrate you?

Do you know how incredibly awesome you are??

You are the only YOU on this planet!

Even if you have an identical twin…you are still unique and different in your own way.

Our society equates celebrating with food…

Birthday – has to have cake

Girls’ night out – has to include wine.

Date night – has to include dinner and dessert

Think about all the times where food is the main player in the things you do.

Life isn’t about food.

Yes you need food to stay alive and yes I DO think food needs to taste good…

But can you celebrate without eating or drinking something.

I know you are trying to lose weight and you are looking forward to that elusive day when you have arrived at the ideal weight you have deemed that you are now worthy at.

But what about celebrating as you are losing weight!

Not just when the scale gives you the number you want to see or when your pants are looser.

Celebrate…

• when you decided to not eat when your stomach was not growling.
• not overeating.
• when you show up for your workout.
• when you completed your workout.
• when you are aware that you are choosing to overeat.
• How about celebrating when you feel proud of yourself.
• Or when you treated yourself with love and compassion in the way you talk to yourself.

Celebrate all the wins!

When I get on the coaching calls with my clients, we talk about what they are celebrating.

Some clients feel like that is a foreign word to them.

They want to tell me about all the things they screwed up on in the past week.

That doesn’t serve you.

Our brains are programmed to point out all the things we “did wrong”. It is its way of trying to keep us safe. But you need to dive into all the things you did right first. When you go with what IS working you brain will bring up a whole database of all the ways you are on the right path. THEN when you do go into what didn’t go as planned you are better prepared to find solutions rather than going down the rabbit hole of an “I suck” fest.

What could you celebrate right now that could move you one eighth of an inch closer to the healthier body you want?

And if you aren’t celebrating …why not?

Getting a healthier body doesn’t have to include willpower and white knuckling.

You don’t need pills or potions to be successful.

You CAN eat the foods you love…

You CAN play in your favorite activities.

Lasting weight loss comes from how you think and feel about yourself and then the actions you take to become healthier…

So, if you aren’t celebrating you need to change the way you look and feel at how you lose weight.

If you are curious how to put this all together for you, I want to invite you to schedule your discovery call with me today. On the call, share how your body just isn’t co-operating with your ideas and what is the body you really see yourself living in. One of the great benefits to this call, is you will get my expert eye on what is going on and I will point out some blind spots you are missing that are keeping you stuck.

We will talk about what it would look like to work together and if you are all in we will get you started right on the call. Regardless of whether we decide to move forward and work together, you will leave your call with insight on what steps you need to take next to move closer to the healthier body you want to live in. Schedule your call today at ShapeItUpFitness.com/call

Today on the Shape It Up Over 40 podcast, I have a special guest and we are talking about:

How To Reach Your Goals Without Burnout

We are going to dive into:

• Give permission to take up space
• how to have self-love in business,
• how to reach your goals without burnout

Welcome to the Shape It Up Over 40 podcast! I am your host, Nicole Simonin and I help women over 40 lose weight for the last time. Over the past 20 years, I have developed a weight loss program where there are no pills, no potions, no diets to follow, no insane workouts, no massive cardio…with my background as a professional ballet dancer and teacher, medical degree in Physical Therapy, Personal

Trainer and Health Coach …I have boiled weight loss down to doing 3 things….Fueling your body, Moving your body and Managing your mind.

I know you are tired of battling your weight.

You don’t have to anymore.

Imagine in 6 months, you are calm and relaxed around food, you are able to do daily activities (like walking upstairs) with more ease, you are having more fun because you no longer feel like a prisoner in your body… and you know EXACTLY how to lose weight and maintain it EVEN if you are on vacation, on holiday, busy at work or it’s a Tuesday.

If you are serious about your health and wellness and are ready to lose the weight for good, I want to invite you to schedule a call with me. Go to https://shapeitupfitness.com/call/ and schedule today!

How To Reach Your Goals Without Burnout special guest Susie Trigg Tucker

My special guest today is a business mindset coach who believes when you connect people to their purpose, there is no limit to what they can do. She empowers her clients to go inward and own their truth, so no matter their current circumstances, they can embrace growth and cultivate unbreakable belief in themselves, which allows them to achieve their business and personal goals.

Featured on this episode:

• Find Susie here www.susietriggtucker.com

Listen to Today’s Podcast

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Weight Loss Seems Elusive For You

Weight loss seems elusive to you…

Like some people can just wish the pounds to disappear and poof! They are down.

You keep hoping that this next diet will be the “one”…

The one that literally tips the scales and you can go merrily along living in your dream body…

But it never happens for you.

Listen to Today’s Podcast

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If you would like help losing weight for the last time in an easy and doable manner, reach out and schedule your discovery call with me today. On this call, you will find out what is blocking you from getting the results you want. Just being on this call with me will give you a perspective of WHEN you will lose weight not IF you will lose weight. On the call, we will talk about working together and what that looks like. If you are a “hell yes!” we will get you started right then. And if you are a no that’s absolutely fine. You get to decide if you want to continue to question IF this will ever happen for you OR decide to go all in on you and commit to WHEN you lose weight for the last time. I have appointments open today for your discovery call. Let’s get you started on losing weight for the last time. Go to ShapeItUpFitness.com/call and book your 1^st life changing call with me today!

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Weight Loss Seems Elusive For You

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Weight loss seems elusive to you…

Like some people can just wish the pounds to disappear and poof! They are down.

You keep hoping that this next diet will be the “one”…

The one that literally tips the scales and you can go merrily along living in your dream body…

But it never happens for you.

It never happens because you are choosing a diet…aka a rigid, restrictive way that you TRULY do NOT want to do in the first place. Think about that…no one gets excited about “going on a diet”…yes! Sign me up for food I don’t want to eat…or a meal schedule I don’t want to stick too…or a calorie frame I don’t want to do!!” No one says that! You pick a diet because you THINK it’ll work. Period. And when it doesn’t you think “well I must have the wrong diet” NOOOOOO!!!

And yet you keep trying diets.

• Asking your friends what they are doing…
• Searching and searching on the internet for the answer…
• Maybe you download an app that you think will give you accountability…
• Joining a gym where you have really no idea which machine or free weights you need to use so you just stick to the cardio machines….
• OR a gym that gives you such a beat down that you can’t move for the next week and you secretly dread going back but “no pain. No gain” bull malarkey that you keep telling yourself!

If you have tried all these things and you STILL aren’t seeing any weight changes OR you are miserable in what you are doing….you need to go back to the beginning of this journey.

That beginning happens between your ears.

Back To The Beginning

The diet and fitness industry has taught you a certain way to lose weight AND it can be effective IF ( and that’s a BIG “IF”) and only if you have the right mindset in place…and quite honestly after all the 100’s of women I have helped over the years…that right mindset isn’t even on their radar.

I know when I first started Shape It Up, back in 2006 I did NOT know that mindset piece. I for sure knew to workout hard and with a ton of effort and log your food or find a diet…again those actions DO work BUT they do NOT work long-term.

I can guess that you probably feel fantastic when you’ve achieved that weight loss goal that you hit when you were following some diet and/or workout program but you felt like utter CRAP when you gained it back because you “fell off the wagon”!

I know you WANT to STOP this cycle.

You want to feel great in your body all year round!

You do not want to feel the pressure or nervousness of squeezing into a bathing suit or short sleeved shirts that pressure that happens as soon as spring starts teasing us with good weather.

When clients come on to their discovery call to find out more about working with me…I love the looks I get on the call when I tell them you can lose weight while you eat all your favorite foods, while you do things that you love to do and with minimal time commitment.

The look of “is this possible”….mouth open and eyes wide.

YES! Yes it IS possible to lose weight without restriction, without sacrifice, without dieting counting calories or food logging, without spending hours and hours working out…and I say “Yes. Yes it truly is possible.”

I’ve done it.

My clients have done it.

You can do it too!

My clients spend time unlearning what they have been taught.

We dive into why you think losing weight is hard and why you think it’ll never happen for you.

You learn how to fuel your body and still eat all the foods you love.

You learn how to move your body so it is healthy and strong so you can do things that you LOVE doing…like hiking, walking with friends, traveling, skiing, walking on the beach searching for seashells…whatever floats your boat!

So, I want to leave this take away with you…do you think you can lose weight?

And if the answer is “yes” than why haven’t you?

If you think the answer is “no” get curious about that…why do you think that is?

Want Help?

If you would like help losing weight for the last time in an easy and doable manner, reach out and schedule your discovery call with me today. On this call, you will find out what is blocking you from getting the results you want. Just being on this call with me will give you a perspective of WHEN you will lose weight not IF you will lose weight.

We will talk about working together and what that looks like. If you are a “hell yes!” we will get you started right then. And if you are a no that’s absolutely fine. You get to decide if you want to continue to question IF this will ever happen for you OR decide to go all in on you and commit to WHEN you lose weight for the last time. I have appointments open today for your discovery call. Let’s get you started on losing weight for the last time. Go to ShapeItUpFitness.com/call and book you 1^st life changing call with me today!

Going from Grief to Great After Divorce with special guest Kelli Calabrese

Today on the Shape It Up Over 40 podcast, I have a special guest and we are talking about:

Going from Grief to Great After Divorce

• The freedom that comes with forgiveness,
• the super power that gratitude is.
• The importance of celebrating your life.

Listen to Today’s Podcast

About Kelli Calabrese

My special guest, Kelli Calabrese, empowers women to overcome the fear, grief and rejection of divorce to heal and create a fabulous bonus life. My guest is a 35-year fitness, nutrition, lifestyle and wellness expert, has appeared on all of the major networks, is a 3-time best-selling author and has spoken on stages internationally.

Featured on this episode

• “Forgiving Forward” book by Bruce and Toni Hebel
• “Success Habits of Super Achievers” by Kelli Calabrese

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